Many times the relationship stress stems from not knowing where a relationship stands. Friends? More than friends? Going somewhere? Only going to the bedroom? Going out the door?
I'm in the beginning stages of just such a relationship. I have been friends with a man for about 30 years, from way back before he was a man, to be truly accurate. Just a cute, little hormonal kid with a great head of hair. He is now a cute, little hormonal man with a great head of hair. And he's sweet. But he is a man, so he's also complicated.
He invited me down to spend some time with him this Summer.(He lives 3 hours away). I was supposed to be there right now, but he ended up having to work, then move, so we've rescheduled. Part of me finds this re-schedule fishy even though he's said that our visit is all he's thinking about, etc. I hate to admit it, but after spending 3 years married to a liar and then a year and a half dating another liar, well I've got serious trust issues. I want to be open and not taint something before it even gets a chance, but my instinct is to label him a cad of some sort or other and move on.
I would feel much better if he would say something like,"Lessons Learned (yeah, I'm going incognito here), I really like you and I'd like to see if there's something more here." Do men ever say things like that? I'm sure that there are men somewhere who say things like that, but most of the men I've known prefer to hold things close to their chest, keep some of those cards hidden.
So, I'll wait it out some more. See what happens.
Are you any more patient than I am? Do you have trust issues?
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