I Won't Label Him A Cad, Yet

It's always easier to figure out another person's relationship. Have you ever noticed that?  When we observe we tend to go, oh no, I wouldn't stand for that....

Many times the relationship stress stems from not knowing where a relationship stands. Friends? More than friends? Going somewhere? Only going to the bedroom? Going out the door?

I'm in the beginning stages of just such a relationship. I have been friends with a man for about 30 years, from way back before he was a man, to be truly accurate. Just a cute, little hormonal kid with a great head of hair. He is now a cute, little hormonal man with a great head of hair. And he's sweet. But he is a man, so he's also complicated.

He invited me down to spend some time with him this Summer.(He lives 3 hours away). I was supposed to be there right now, but he ended up having to work, then move, so we've rescheduled. Part of me finds this re-schedule fishy even though he's said that our visit is all he's thinking about, etc. I hate to admit it, but after spending 3 years married to a liar and then a year and a half dating another liar, well  I've got serious trust issues. I want to be open and not taint something before it even gets a chance, but my instinct is to label him a cad of some sort or other and move on.

I would feel much better if he would say something like,"Lessons Learned (yeah, I'm going incognito here), I really like you and I'd like to see if there's something more here." Do men ever say things like that? I'm sure that there are men somewhere who say things like that, but most of the men I've known prefer to hold things close to their chest, keep some of those cards hidden.

So, I'll wait it out some more. See what happens. 

Are you any more patient than I am?  Do you have trust issues?

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Hello and What Am I Doing Here?

I'm a freelance writer. I make my money writing about..... well mostly about beauty products lately, but just a short time ago I was a relationship blogger. I wrote the former Dating Dames blog. I enjoyed the work, but when the job ended, I also enjoyed the break.

I've written about dating, breaking up, how to get along, how to argue, and I've covered meeting a man online in great depth. Many of the stories were my own, but I also did a fair amount of research - books, anecdotes from friends/neighbors/acquaintanences, articles, blah, blah, on and on...


Relationships, people in love or lust, they fascinate me. What motivates them? How are they able to meet, to make it work?

In case you are curious, here's a bit of background on me.....

I'm 43. I was married for 3 year and I've been divorced for a long time. I'm a single mom. I've spent the last 19 years either single and not looking, single and actively looking, in a committed relationship, or casually dating. Whether I had a man of my own or not, men are never far from my mind. I've never out-grown the boy-craziness that developed sometime during the first week of kingergarten. I blame my mom, who is herself a boy-crazy woman of 64. Some of us never outgrow our love of men and I for one, am very glad to have discovered that.

I'm going to use this blog to do a few things. Including......

*Talk about my dating/relationship experience in the hope that it will help you

*Review books or articles on dating and/or relationships

*Give advice, because in my search for Mr. Right, I've run across quite a few Mr. Wrongs. No better lessons than those learned from the wrong guy.

I feel that when it comes to relationships, experience is the very best teacher. Come young grasshopper, allow me to share the benefit of my experience...........

                                                               Not a grasshopper......